Wednesday, January 9, 2008

A little note about my Husband

Today my love for my husband grew three sizes...like the grinch's heart.

It all began when I called him this afternoon. I told him my family is going to help my grandma move to another apartment. I asked him "do you feel good enough to go?" His reply was "of course. I feel fine."

When he came home he looked tired. More than usual. I asked a few times if he would rather stay home and relax. My family made sure we knew that we didn't need to be there. Staying home would be no big deal. His reply.."I'm fine. Let's go."

So we went and moved Grams. I could tell by the end of the night he was feeling exhausted. Not because he said so, just because you could see it on his face. He's just looking tired.

Now in this situation I find myself not really knowing what to do for him. I want to baby him. You know, treat him like I would treat my kids. Find their favorite blanket, get them a drink and a teddy bear and call it good. But he is no child, he is my manly husband. I don't want him to feel like I am babying him, but I do want him to know I am here to take care of him. It's an odd predicament I'm finding myself in. ;)

So I met somewhere in the middle. I said "let's go get some Cafe Rio, and go home and sit by the fire." Cafe Rio makes everything better, right? So we were in the lobby getting ready to leave when this short little old lady walks into the room. She has taken her clock down and needs some help hanging it back up.

So of course, Travis volunteers. We follow this old bird, who walks slower than any old bird should walk, to her apt. CLEAR down the hall. He hangs the clock, and I'm ready to bolt. But instead of leaving he takes his time to reset it for her, and make sure the "swinging thing" is swinging. (I don't know the technical name for the swinging thing, forgive me.)

When the kids were in bed and the Cafe Rio was eaten, we sat in front of the fire. My dear Travis is tired. Much too tired. His throat hurts so bad he really can barely talk and I can hear the scratching in his voice when he does.

Instead of complaining and staying home, he came. He didn't really let me know how miserable he really was until the night was over. He saved that sweet lady from a night without her clock. I worry about him and hate that he has to feel sick. I wish he felt good all the time, and I feel like complete crap that I drug him outside tonight, if I would have known how crappy he really felt, I would have forced him to stay home.

My heart is full of love for him tonight. He is selfless. He is caring. And he is wonderful. Travis, if you stumble on my blog today, know that I love you and am sorry that I drug you out to the Ol' folks home tonight.

19 comments:

Amy Johnson said...

Seriously??? Is it really possible to make me cry over a blog?? Alas it is true...I have tears right now! I agree, Travis is one of the most wonderful, thoughtful people I have ever met in my life!!! He is always so willing to help anyone at anytime, even now when he needs to worry about taking care of himself! You married an amazing man Hayley!!! We all love him so much!!

Cody & Ashley Godfrey said...

I must agree with you...Trav is amazing. You married a good man, the perfect man for you in every way. You are wonderful for each other. Not only did you luck out, but I'm sure Trav will agree, he lucked out too! You're taking great care of him, and I'm sure he wouldn't and couldn't ask for more.

Kylene said...

I love the wedding pic Hayley. You two are perfect. It's crazy how we think we are so in love the day we get married but it's little moments like you just wrote about that make us love in such a deeper way. I hope Travis is feeling better....if not, a cafe rio trip is always appropriate!

The Wolfley Family said...

I cry over your blog all the time-- but especially this morning! Trav makes it easy for us all to forget how sick he is because he just doesn't complain about how crappy he feels! He has done so much for us and I just wish I could tell him to relax and let us all take care of him! I wonder if he knows how much we love him and appreciate him! He is so great to all of us. Thanks for marrying such a great guy!

Jan said...

That is such a sweet post! Who wouldn't love a person that does such selfless acts - especially feeling the way he must. I can see how it would be a bit of a predicament like you mentioned.

Michelle said...

These are the reasons I love my brother so much. He is a wonderful husband, father , son and brother. Travis, I love you.
your sis.

Linda Johnson said...

Hay, Neither one of you felt great last night and I am so sorry, I really did not expect you to come, honest! I really do need Travis to know that he is a great blessing to our family! He really did not complain once last night, I did not know that he felt that bad. He works so hard and he is so strong. I cried to know how selfless he was last night. He is always selfless and adds so much to all of our lives, unless your playing killer bunnies or any game with the guy and then he is out to win. I am so blessed with my wonderful kids and their spouses they have all blessed our lives so much. I thank all my kids for letting the Lord be a part of their decision on who to marry and for blessing our family with such great people.I love you all! Mom

Paul~Jami~Ellie said...

I don't know your husband but he sounds like a great guy. You two are such a cute couple and you are lucky to have each other.

Morrell's said...

The Crying thing applies to me also I often get tears when I read you blog! You and Travis both are such amazing people! I just adore you! Sure did miss you at bunco, but the weather was pretty bad that night so I understand. Bunco is at my house in Febuary just so ya know!

RhondaH said...

Hayley, of course I can't speak for Travis, but coming from someone that was in horrible back pain and really exhausted for 8 months, I just wanted to tell you how much BETTER it made me feel when I was helping people. It made me forget about myself and the suffering I was going through. As I read your post, that's all I could think about, that even though Travis was exhausted I'm sure it put a smile in his heart to be helping others. I'm so grateful that you have him, and he has you!!

mortonfam said...

Travis is a stud, I think everyone knows this. Hey, Hayley email me at amandamort@gmail. I don't have your e-mail address and I wanted to send you something!

tina said...

Oh! Trav is such a neat guy! And I guess I'm outta the loop! Which apartment # is grams in now?

Katie said...

Tears in the eyes! What a great guy. We sure hope he starts feeling better. He obviously deserves it.

Bre said...

The tears go on... you both are amazing! And I see as many others, I cry many times as reading your blog. I love to hear about your family. You guys are a blessing to so many people! Travis seems to be just perfect for you! I wish I could know him better! I love you guys! I always wish the best for you! Please know that I would love to have a play date with those adorable children anytime you guys want a break to yourselves to have a night by the fire:)

Soto family said...

Chalk another point up for the "tear section" for me too!
I feel like I am "Snooping" when I peek at other's blogs listed on my friend's/families lists, but... I really admire your bravery, both of you, and it reminds me how ungrateful I am for my loved ones sometimes. You always have the sweetest things to say, and I know they are always straight from the heart.

AMBER said...

Hayley,
You posted on my blog, and I was so happy to hear from you. I read some of your blog, and you and your husband sound like truly amazing people. Please email me at crazeestampermom @ gmail.com if you would like to correspond directly.
Wishing you and Travis all the best!
Amber

Haueter Photography said...

Wow! You two are truly amazing. I am so not a crier and you had me crying. Trav sounds like an incredible person! I loved the picture by the way!

Sue said...

Sorry about Travis...you guys will just have to stay snuggled by the fire in your new family room. You've got a good guy there!! He even helps little ladies in need without rolling his eyes and throwing his arms in the air?!! Love you guys...Sue..

Tracy, Courtney & Peyton said...

What a sweet guy! He is always so thoughful and so sweet to you and the girls!! And to the old clock lady! You are a very lucky girl!! and yes Cafe Rio and a fire can solve many problems!!!