Thursday, September 2, 2010

{8 Years}

10ish years ago Travis asked me on a date. And I told him no. And he kept on trying to convince me. And eventually, he did.
years ago me and one of my very dearest friends Lorinda were at our friend Jamie's apartment on campus. I was flat broke at the time because a)I bought a lot of clothes and b)I bought a lot of clothes and c)I played a lot. When Lorinda and I went to leave and hop in my little beat up car, I found a boot on it. I was in tears, and devastated, and had to shell out the $60 to remove the boot, leaving my bank account, well with like 4 bucks in it. I complained to Travis, who was my sort of boyfriend, sort of not-at the time.

The next day at beauty school he called and told me to go outside to my car. And when I got there I found the largest, ugliest, most hideous red cowgirl boot on the hood of my car. Stuffed inside was 60 $1 bills. And I knew then that Travis would fill my life with humor, and always take care of me.

8 years ago Monday, I married Travis for Eternity. I knew then, without a doubt that I made the right choice, and that our life would be a very happy life. And it has been. And I knew then that our marriage was Eternal, but since then, that has come to mean more to me then anything else in my life. He's mine for keeps. :) I am so lucky.

7 years ago we bought our first house. (And probably our last house). It is warm here. It's not always clean, it's not huge, and at time it's inhabitants get grumpy over the dumbest things, but it is truly a home. Our home. And I love it here.

6 years ago we had our first baby. Little Adyson came into our lives and we became a family. I watched Travis become a daddy. I watched him fall in love with being a Daddy. Our home became homier, with a crib, diapers, baby laughter, and lots of laundry. And I often wondered how I got to be so lucky.

5 years ago Travis was diagnosed with cancer. And life seemed hard, or maybe just was hard. We sat in the Doctors office together, thinking he was going to tell us that Travis had an ulcer, and instead heard the words tumor, surgery, and not curable. We were face with our first real trial, and even though I always knew we were a good pair, I really learned it when we were faced with the bad stuff. Turns out Trav's laid back-sarcastic personality gels very nicely with my overly stressed-worrying self. 5 years ago I learned that we were good together even in the hardest of stuff. Surgery happened, and we were told the cancer was gone...which leads me to 4...

years ago we had Sienna. And our little family became just a 'real family'. A complete family. Our life became full of doting on our little ladies. We each had one to wrangle. And had our arms full everywhere we went. And looking back I am so thankful that we took advantage of that small window of time and welcomed Sienna into our family. What would life be like without her??

3 years ago (almost) the cancer came back. And it brought friends. And we were faced with the worst case scenario, and we wondered if we would make it to our 8th anniversary. 3 years ago I learned I married an even more amazing man then I imagined. I watched him start his treatments and have sores all over his throat, and mouth, and not complain. I watched him decide that he was still going to be the amazing father he was, the amazing husband he was, and realized that he would face whatever was thrown his way, without letting it change his whole life. And I am still amazed that after 3 years ago we still have hair, and aren't in a nut house.

2 years ago we took our kids to Disneyland. We bought a new car. We had 2 kids in dance, went out every weekend for ice cream, and played a lot of canasta. This year we found a balance for living a normal life with our not so normal circumstances. Heaven bless 2 years ago. That was the year we got our groove back.

year ago, and today still, we are just plugging along. We have a 1st grader...what the what? And 2 girls who ride bikes sans training wheels. We still get ice cream every weekend, scans every 3 months, and do our darndest to sleep in on Saturdays. We are even trying really hard to do Family Home Evening every week! I steal the covers off the bed, Travis snores. He zones me out while watching ESPN and teases me for my Wednesday night outings with my friends. We take turns washing the girls' hair, and napping on Sunday afternoons. We do homework, watch a lot of 'Wizards of Waverly place' and can sing the lyrics to most 'Hannah Montana' songs. We plan for the future and are learning to never take advantage of time. We are not perfect. We still fight over the small stuff, and lose patience easily. But I think that the best is still ahead of us.

I do love that man of mine, and am excited to commemorate our Anniversary this weekend. I know, without a doubt, that there is no one in this world who I'd rather be 'in it' with. Love you T.

(And if you are wondering how we are celebrating, I will tell you. We aren't doing anything special this weekend...because in a few months we will be going here, here, here, and here! We are a little excited...)


Lorinda said...

Oh, I just loved that post! It was great going down memory lane with you! You two are such a great couple - I knew it back before the boot even ;) Happy anniversary! I adore you both.

Kylene said...

This is such a sweet post Hayley. Happy Anniversary!

Kellie said...

Loved this post!

I can just feel the strength you both have as individuals and as a couple.

Have fun on your trip--it looks way fun!

Jill said...

I loved reading this. Congrats on 8 years! How fun to go to spain! Matt wants to take me to his mission and I'm not sure I want to go.
You guys really are an inspiration to me.

Jenny said...

Love it! What a ride you've had the last 8 years! And that is so cute about the red boot.... couldn't turn back then.

Justin & Ashlee said...

Happy Anniversary! What a great post. I am so excited for your trip. You are going to have so much fun! I love Europe, there is so much to see and do. Live it up!

Clayton and Heidi said...

1. Happy Anniversary
2. Soooooooo JEALOUS about your trip to Spain. I have always wanted to go there
3. Wizards of Waverly place is awesome. I watch it and don't even have kids.
4. I hope you took the $60 in cash from the red boot and went shopping:)

Trisha said...

I love your story.

Charee B Mcclellan said...

This was awesome! Great POST, AND HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

Michelle said...

So sweet... brought tears to my eyes. I hope you have a great anniversary together! And just a little jealous of your upcoming getaway.

Mortons Love said...

Happy 8 years! I always thought back then, Trav is not going to give up with out her! He was always so sweet to you.

And I'm super zealous about your trip! Zealous is even more than jelous, right?

Melissa said...

I loved this post..Happy guys deserve a great get a way, Spain sounds amazing, can't wait to hear about it!!!

Tasha said...

All I have to say is, loved this post and you put my anniversary (and any other post I do) to shame!

Chanelle said...

Love that. Why haven't you written a book yet? You are truly gifted with words. I am so glad you are going to see Spain with Trav.

Brooke Snow said...

Wow! What a lovely post! Made me a bit teary! Here's to 8 more years times ten!

The Falkers said...

Loved it! I am so jealous of your upcoming adventures! XO!

The Drysdale's said...

Haylee I loved reading this. You are so creative and it was so fun to learn more about your family. Congradulations on your anniversary.

Celestial Starr said...

I love you Hayley!!! You are one of my greatest heros! I seriously don't know how you do it? You handle everything on your plate and you are still just the fun loving you!!!

I also loved this post!!! I loved reading about your life and you have to know that every success you and your family have, I am SO happy for you!!! I hardly know Trav but I know how happy he makes you and it makes me so happy to see you this way. Such a strong woman, such a WOman!!!

Love you forever!!!

Celestial Starr said...

p.s. When do you leave to Spain???